Valentines Day Fun – Save Money and Save Your Heart
Valentines Day fun is defined differently by different people. That's why its good to 'know thy partner'. Its easy to get caught up in the all the hype but it might do you well to remember that gifts don’t define feelings.
Most women especially, have outlandish visions of roses, chocolates, and romantic dinners, floating in their heads. However, sometimes men fall short of realizing it. Woops!
Valentines Day is a great time to reconnect lost emotional connections with our loved ones as it should be, but there are some pitfalls that you’ll need to overcome if you don’t want to be disappointed in the way things go on your special day!
Valentines Day fun is doable. Don't let the devil in you turn your heart to stone just because you don't get what you want, or because you're sitting on your tushy all alone. You can make the day much better for you and for those around you, just by changing your attitude about Valentines Day fun!
Valentines Day Fun - In a Relationship
Don’t Set the Bar Too High
Don’t allow yourself to indulge in unrealistic expectations about the presents you might get or how you’ll celebrate the day. Discuss your expectations and plans for Valentine's Day fun before it comes, so you won’t be disappointed. If you’re in a relationship, Valentines day includes two people making mutually agreeable decisions about the day. If you have elaborate expectations and think something really fantastic is going to happen and it doesn’t, you’ll only be let down if they don’t. Remember, its OK to fantasize about Valentines day fun, but this is real life, not the movies!
Don’t Fall Into the Trap
If you don’t get what you think you deserve on Valentines day, don’t hold it against your partner. We all have different views after all. Don’t feel unloved or jilted if you don’t get the presents you wanted. Many women dream about getting an engagement ring for Valentines Day. If you don’t get one, maybe your ‘man’ wasn’t ready to take the leap just yet, or might be planning a better day to propose to you! Don’t try and be a mind reader and remember to enjoy the moment!
Don’t Argue
Compromising with your loved one about how to celebrate beforehand, can be a real relationship saver. Find something that you both enjoy doing and you’ll be one step closer to finding a mutually happy way to celebrate. In other words, find a happy medium.
Try not to persuade your partner to do things only your way. That only leads to extra stress and pressure, which can undo feelings of love and mutual respect. Money, for a lot of people this year, is especially tight so also keep that in mind!
Don’t Overspend
Don’t allow yourself to outdo your partner by spending too much. Valentines day is not a contest to see who’ll spend the most money. Before Valentines day, all businesses raise their prices, hoping you’ll shell out the big bucks. Don’t fall for the hype by overspending. You don’t need to go into debt just for one day of pleasure. Try and envision time down the road, when you can use the extra money you saved for a nice vacation somewhere. Valentines is not about giving presents. Its about feeling love and feeling special.
Ideas that are dirt cheap and full of Valentines day fun?
Go see a romantic movie or rent a movie, give each other a massage with some edible chocolate oil, fill out adult mad libs with each other, buy new satin sheets for your bed and try them out, grill out some oysters, cook a romantic dinner for two by candlelight together, try out a new coffee shop in your neighborhood, take a bubble bath together, or simply agree to exchange cards.
Valentines Day Fun - For Singles
Don’t Forget You
Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you don’t have people in your life that love you. If you have children, hang out with them, make cookies, play games, or make Valentine hearts out of construction paper. If you have good friends who like company, go visit them or ask them if they’d meet you for lunch. Spend the day happy about your freedom and be grateful for not having to stress so much about the day!
Don’t Let it Bring You Down
You don’t have to feel depressed about being single. Most people are single, according to the latest statistics. (I'm single and love it! Yippee ya frigging hoo!) Think of your time alone as a time of respite to work on your goals and your future. You aren’t defined by having a partner. There is more to you than that. Do things that make you feel good about you! Enjoy your day and be positive about the good things you like about you.
Don’t Think the World has Passed You By
If you're single, try and get out and meet other single people. Go to a single’s bar for a drink or out to dinner with a group of single friends. Make your own party at home with friends and have a blast! The worst thing you can do is to think you’re alone. There are lots of other singles around. You just happen to be one of them!
Don’t Drown in Your Tears
If you’re thinking of staying home alone and drinking yourself silly, remember that you’ll pay for it the next day. Feeling sad is understandable, but that’s why it’s so important to remember there are lots of things you can do besides sit at home alone. If you’re dead bent that you don’t want to go out, invite a group of people over for a Chocolate party. Make chocolate fondue, do chocolate facials, or watch the movie 'Chocolat'. Any movie with Johnny Depp is sure to cheer you up!
Men are by far better about being single on Valentines day than women. Men instinctively know to call up a buddy, but men aren't as vulnerable. It's women who are the most vulnerable! Most women wear their hearts on their sleeves and shouldn’t stay home alone. If you end up staying home, you're more likely to feel worse, so get out and have fun! That's an order!
Expensive gifts? Bah Humbug! Who needs em? Save your heart and save money this year by making a real commitment to stay the course! You can have Valentines Day fun just by being a little creative!