Improve what you can and you will find love! It’s like the old saying goes: It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all! And it’s so true.

My own family is all gone now except for my son. That aspect of my life has been terribly hard on me. I had such a wonderful family when I was growing up. Instead of letting it get me down and making my heart grow cold, I decided to thrive instead. I made up my mind a long time ago that I was going to not let my losses allow me to suffer for the rest of my life!

My heart actually got larger instead. Because of my losses, I became more conscious about the choices I was making for myself and my son! I became a better listener and a whole lot more spiritual.

They also say you can’t live with someone else until you learn how to live with yourself. I find the same is true for love. How can you expect to love someone else until you truly love yourself!

I believe this is TRUE!

If you can’t live with you or love you, then why would anyone else want to?

Learn to be better whether you’re single or not. Don’t leave it up to a partner to be the cause of positive changes you can make for yourself.

The only person that can change things is you! How you handle your life is a direct reflection of you.

Your self-esteem and self-confidence all play a role in how you're able to love yourself and other’s.

So, how do we find love? First you must seek self love.

Stop self persecution. Forgive yourself of your shortcomings. Make a list of things you like about you and concentrate on building on those things! Seek help from others. Help yourself when you can. Help others when you can. And never ever, stop learning all you can to improve yourself!

Second we must seek love.

It used to be that our friends or family members or neighbors would introduce us to their friends and somehow we just met that special someone.

Now-a-days it’s a whole different story though.

Being in love or loving someone is certainly a challenge, but is is achievable. In the age of the internet, thousands of dating sites have exploded. It seems that many of us are all seeking the same thing. Love. Never ever stop looking for it and you will find it!

That warm fuzzy feeling that makes you want to 'get er done' and find someone special! I’ve been on a few dating sites and gotten great responses. My problem is that I love to work and don’t have time to play as much as I’d like.

I’m just not a relationship hopper but I know a lot of people who are. They just can't seem to stand to be alone for one minute.

I also made up my mind years ago that I wasn’t gonna ‘settle’. Some folks might though and that’s fine for them. Whatever floats your boat! Different strokes for different folks, right?

I also know that you can’t meet anyone if you don’t try. I really don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life, as much as I like being with me:o)

If you do find love your overall beauty and health will improve! Love is a great incentive for self improvement!

If you don’t find love with someone else, then remember to love yourself! You might be lonely while you wait for the right partner but if you love yourself you can still survive and thrive, until the right person comes along!

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